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Sunday, May 2, 2010

Got something to share with Real Men !

Top 10: Ways To Attract Women Fast !

If you want to attract women fast, the answer isn’t pickup lines -- the answer is to develop your “Inner Game” and become a guy who naturally attracts women. As you develop as a man, from the inside out, you’ll automatically know the right things to do and say to women to spark attraction. How great is that? Check out these 10 powerful ways to attract women fast:

NUMBER 10

Learn the secret language of manhood

When you become a real man -- an independent, strong man who is on his own path -- you’ll begin to communicate differently: You’ll move differently, you’ll hold yourself differently, you’ll respond to situations differently, and you’ll use different words. It’s easy to spot guys who don’t get it or are trying to fake it, but it’s just as easy to spot the guys who do get it. Just like guitar players know whether someone is a great musician or an amateur within the first few notes, women know if you’re a real man in a matter of seconds. This is why it’s so important to work on yourself, your self-image and your “Inner Game” until you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you’re a real man. When you do, you’ll attract women fast and naturally.

NUMBER 9

Make “certainty” part of who you are

People like certainty. If you can provide it and communicate it, you’ll be more attractive. If you can’t, it’s game over. If women think that you’re secretly a wussbag -- that you’re only acting cool, but underneath you’re a clingy, insecure guy just waiting to smother them -- they’re going to bail. But if you can communicate a strong, stable, secure, and masculine maturity, women will be less likely to flake out on you because they have more certainty about you. Learn to communicate certainty in everything you do and you’ll attract women fast.

NUMBER 8

Certainty versus teasing

I often tell guys to find fun, playful ways to indirectly answer the questions women ask. This includes the typical questions like what you do for a living and where do you live. So, you might ask, “How can I create certainty in women if you’re telling me to keep them uncertain about these things?” My answer is simple: They want certainty that their experience with you is going to be fun, not certainty about the details of your life. Keep this distinction in mind when you’re flirting -- you’ll tease women and give them a sense of certainty at the same time.

NUMBER 7

The more personal, the more universal

My mentor, Gary Ballinger, taught me something that he learned from his mentor: that the more personal something is to you, the more universal it probably is. Realize that each of your insecurities is actually quite common, then stop hiding them -- be transparent. This can be very liberating. When a woman interacts with a man who isn’t hung up about his ”hang-ups,” not only does it help her relax, it also communicates to her that she’s dealing with a real man who is comfortable with who he is. And this is precisely the kind of man that women are naturally attracted to.

NUMBER 6

Stop reliving your emotional past

It’s a fact; we humans remember things that happened in the presence of emotion. And we often respond to our emotional imprints of situations from the past, rather than to the actual event taking place in front of us -- right now. So, you got dumped three years ago, and now a woman does something that reminds you of your ex and you start freaking out about it. Becoming a man is about breaking those connections, living in the present and taking each new situation for what it’s worth in today’s terms. Women dig guys who can break through the emotional baggage of their past and live in the “now.”

NUMBER 5

Figure out where your power comes from

Have you ever asked yourself where your own personal power is based? Take a sec and ask yourself: Is your competition with other men based in a powerful, masculine and secure maturity? Or is it based in a weak, insecure and over-compensating immaturity? Do you respect mature men and treat them as worthy allies (or adversaries) or do you secretly harbor thoughts of superiority? Is your ability to persuade based on whining, tyranny and tantrums? Or is it based on credibility, authenticity and wisdom? Take a few minutes and figure out if your personal power is rooted in scarcity or abundance, then practice living your life from a place of mature, masculine power. This is great for your life, plus you get the added bonus of attracting women fast.

NUMBER 4

Realize success won’t solve your problems

Most immature guys think that money, power and success with women will solve all their problems and make them happy. How great would that be, eh? Unfortunately, it’s simply not true. Often, the things we think would make us happy create new problems of their own once they’re achieved. A mature man understands that he is responsible for his own results. He doesn’t get jealous when others succeed or angry when a successful person complains, and he doesn’t live in a fantasy world thinking that if he had success in a particular area of his life (for example, women and dating) that all of his other problems would be magically solved. Understanding this is an important step in growing up and becoming the type of mature, grounded guy women find irresistibly attractive.

NUMBER 3

A mature man plans ahead

Aristotle said that a sign of a mature man is forethought. Part of maturity is having the ability to think future events all the way through with discipline, instead of guessing, wishing and leaving things to luck. When you’ve thought scenarios through, you can move forward with strength and confidence, knowing that you’ve planned for most of what could happen, and the odds are on your side. By doing this, it frees your mind to deal with the exceptions as they arise. With women, a mature man has thought through all the possible situations and scenarios, and has planned accordingly. The immature, Boy-Man thinks that he has done the same, only it’s not the same at all.

NUMBER 2

How to know when you’re manipulating

The Boy-Man uses tricks and techniques to manipulate, and only lives for instant gratification in the moment. Here’s a test that you can apply to see if you’re being a manipulative Boy-Man: Ask yourself if what you’re doing feels manipulative, sneaky or dishonest in any way. If it does, then you’re allowing the Boy-Man inside of you run things, which will ultimately lead you to a feeling of less fulfillment, not more. If the feeling inside of you is one of strength, authenticity and desire to want to add to your woman’s life experience and joy, then you’re on the right track.

NUMBER 1

Commit to becoming a naturally attractive guy

The most important thing you can do right now to attract women fast is to commit to doing whatever it takes to become the kind of guy who naturally attracts women. That you’ll take the time to learn from guys who are great with women, iron out the “quirks” in your personality, and continue moving forward until you reach your goals. The best thing about this is that you don’t have to wait until you’ve arrived to get rewarded -- every step you take to improve yourself is going to feel great..
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Sunday, April 25, 2010

相对论

2010年4月25号 星期日
人生其实真的很短,常常,我们以为已经度过了某些时期,也以为世代已经改变,但是日据时期离我们也没有一百年,当我们嚷嚷着说,: [时代不同了时代不同了] ,但却又没有真的这么不同。
想想你妈二十年前说不定就像某个让你小鹿乱撞的美女路人甲,那时候的她也才刚度过这年轻时期不久,然后不久后,你也会像你妈那样,之后延续下去的就是你的孩子,这样也许才十四年、六十年,那么的短啊!
然而,既然这样[短],那你的人生又何尝不是短呢? 所以,现在的你在干嘛呢?
假设人生以一百来计算,你确定度过了前面的20%你就是个成熟的大人了吗? 可是,有多少50%的人现在还像个孩子般做些不该做的事? 有多少60 %、70%的人还没有找到他们生命的意义?
有时候人们常说[就像梦一场],这场梦难道不是现实的一部分吗?就像你说你和你的初恋就像一场梦,但这都是曾经是事实不是吗?
那你如何定义梦与现实之间的差别?
那你又如何定义大人与小孩的年龄分界点?
当你放弃一切,用行动追寻某个梦,那就不是个梦,而是你在完成你的现实世界。
你在充实你的人生,那已经从梦变成 The part of your life 。
Form :《18岁的成年礼》

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

我不后悔。。。

2010年4月21号 星期三
刚从韩江学校回来,很累,因为我带队到韩江参加光华杯。。。
这是我第一次自己一个人带着学校的足球校队到校外比赛,前几次,我带他们到CRC去练球,我是以老师的身份带队,结果输了,3-0输给韩江,我知道明天我的下场是如何,我知道我必须承担这个后果,因为我看到你们在球场上的拼搏,我真的愿意承担不管后果有多残,多严重,我都会一手承担,也许这就是老师愿意为学生牺牲的原因吧,我知道我不是一个合格的老师不过我也不想我的学生也是我的朋友毕业后有一个遗憾,有遗憾的滋味我知道,我也很了解。
也许明天我会中箭中到很残,我已经有心理准备了!

Sunday, April 18, 2010

似曾相识。。

2010年4月18号 星期日
前天下午,我和朋友去看“初恋红豆冰”,戏里小时候的botak 真的很像我小时候,他的穿着和周围的环境都很像,有如把我的童年一幕幕的呈现在我眼前,那部戏真的让我想回小时候的我。昨天早上,我带了我校的足球校队到草场去练球,刚好子健也有来,就在踢着球的时候他突然问了我不想再提的东西,就是问我和前女友的东西,天啊! 怎么是这个时候,那时真的把我的心情推向低处,幸好我及时把话题移开,就留着没人的时候才说,怎么知道,让我发现一样东西,家里比较有钱的人谈恋爱是觉得爱不能用东西来衡量,我的想法是爱是看东西衡量的可能我会比较现实,因为我相信缘分的定义都跟物质有关系,例如:一个女生离开了你,十年后又和你在一起。有两个结果,一,你变得稳重,经济ok ,你和他可以维持到老。二,你还是跟十年前的你一样,结果只会分开收场。因为所谓的缘分,就是以整个人来做比较,物质与非物质的比较。爱情是一个不实际的东西,因为我知道男人对一个女人的热情,只会维持十年,当你结婚过后,热情已没有了只有责任与感情。
单身的我,真的不想再让恋爱的链锁捆绑,不过人到了一个阶段就会想要有一种归属感,就会找一个伴侣过下半生。
这都是我跟子健谈完话后的感想,我当然不敢在他面前说这些,因为他有一个很好的女朋友,生活也不错,祝福他们永远都幸福快乐!
(刚才又提到的我不想再提的东西,不是说我讨厌我的前女友只是,我真的不想再提了,都已过去了。)

Sunday, April 11, 2010

老化。。。

2010年4月11号 星期日



一月到现在我常常听到身边的朋友说,抿川你的脸“差”了很多,我想可能最近工作的关系,因为我的工作环境肯定会有太阳,晒太多太阳,太阳的UV会导致我们的皮肤容易老化同时当然会变黑,连庄老师的妈妈都问我为什么那么黑,我都开玩笑说吃饱没事做去晒太阳。有谁不想变白,变美变帅,可是我的工作就是没得避免的,必须牺牲。
我最近买了些保养品希望我的皮肤获得一些保护,听说运动量过多也会导致皮肤老化,因为我们的皮肤太累了。运动会过后我真的要好好休息休息,我不想这么快老啊!!! 
早上,我和朋友去参加了一项跑山比赛,没得奖不过很有满足感因为,我突然找回了我遗失已久的战斗精神,让我全力以赴,真的很爽!!!
我还拍到海龟,很可爱,我以前怎么没发掘其实我身边的东西都很可爱,可能我开始用心去体会了。。。



Friday, April 9, 2010

流浪

2010年4月9号 星期五
今天,我突然想通了什么了,才发现我从小就在外婆家住,很少回家,原来我从小就在流浪,是不知情的情况下流浪,整天在外婆家外跑来跑去,由于从小在外婆家里就是我一个小孩子,所以会有一些自闭。
当我小学的时候,常常被欺负,就在三年级我突然的不想被欺负,所以就慢慢学坏了。回想起要不是我没学坏一些,可能现在还在被别人欺负,不知道是好事还是坏事。
中学时。。。(我不想提了。)
毕业时,面对自己不想面对的事情也要硬着头皮去面对,也不知道该不该。
现在,我很想回到小时候,自由自在的流浪,流浪就是为了回到原点。当你站回原点时,你会觉得你不再是以前的你,你现在是流浪过很多地方,看过很多东西,体验了不同文化、语言、环境,的你。
昨天,有一位女同学找了我出来,我还以为是什么事,到了那边才知道,她想找我聊天。可是,聊得内容不是学校的事而是我以前的事,我知道她是想要了解我,我也知道你想要做什么,可是很抱歉我不是很可能会开始新的恋情,我想流浪,去体验、去探索新的事物。我本来以为可以和自己的另一半去流浪,可是这只是空想而已,不可能会发生,我知道我不会谈恋爱,我不想在伤害别人和我自己,对不起,我不可能在把我的心门打开(除了小孩子)而且我现在是老师你是学生,更加不可能,我不懂我为什么会有那么大的“魅力“一定会引来全级第一的女生(高才生)的注意( 这是第三个人第三次了),对我来说这不是好事,因为我自尊会被伤。我只想和几位朋友或我一个人去流浪。恋爱对我来说已经没有什么意义了。我想做的事里,不容许爱情出现,因为它的出现会把我的流浪安定下来。
当我觉得需要安定的时候,我才来找吧,有没有都随天了。

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

我 。。。

2010年4月6号 星期二
我很久没写blog 了, 我现在可以总结我这一个月的心情,我在这个月失去了钱、信任。。。可是,在我觉得很倒霉的时候,我感觉到我得到的更多,在我的心情像跌到黑洞的时候,我身边的朋友把我拉了上来,当我想去旅游散散心时,突然,我其中一位老师给了我一个有挑战又有意义的旅行,就是去拜访北马的48间独中的师长。请教他们有关一些人生的问题,我知道这一趟旅行会别人可能给我们看白眼、不欢迎等。。。不过,我还是要去,我要是到真正的社会,许多朋友以为自己很了不起知道什么是社会,当我真正接触人的时候,我正的感觉到了,当你出去送文件的时候,刚19 岁的我被视为乳臭未干的小孩,很多人我遇到的老前辈都给了我很差的反应,我也无可奈何把文件送了就走了。我要通过我这次地旅行学习如何跟老前辈沟通和把我的人际关系还有“网络”搞好。
我买了DSLR和手提电脑,我打算把我的行程和照片post 在blogger 纪录我整个行程然后分享。
有时侯我觉得人应该向前看向前走,何必执著在过程中的得失,那是一个过程。如果为了其中一段过程而放弃了整个旅途,我觉得很可惜。所以我这次去的旅行是要用心去体会整个过程,我不会一口气就走完38 间独中不过我会分州来走。
当我们完成了这个计划或旅行,我们就是全国第一匹做类似的旅行。WOO!!!
完成了这个了之后,我们下一个就是澳洲的旅行!!!
是不是很矛盾呢?为什么我用我们? 其实是我跟我的死党(张建和)XD